9 Apr
2008
Recently I was talking with a young mom about raising boys. She told me when her son was a toddler he was so difficult to manage, it caused a lot tension between her and her husband. She said it got so bad they separated for a period of time.When we bring children into our marriage we suddenly have a new dynamic. Parenting brings out a different side of people and sometimes we’re surprised by how our partner assumes their role. Difficulties can come between you or all the joys of parenting can enhance your marriage.
What can you do as a couple to successfully mix parenting and marriage?
2. We all have strengths and weaknesses as parents. Recognize your partner’s strengths and focus on those rather than on his/her weaknesses. You’ll learn to appreciate each other much more.
3. Eliminate the need to be right. Some things are truly best left unsaid. Insisting that your way is the right way only creates tension between parents which creates a stressful environment for children to live in.
4. Remember to keep your marriage strong and alive. Children benefit from living with parents who love and respect each other and spend time together
5. Avoid criticizing and demeaning your partner in front of your children. Remember you are their role model when it comes to relationships. Model what you’d like your children to learn about marriage.
6. Discuss your parenting strategies regularly and aim to be as consistent as possible. Make sure discussions are not held in front of the children.
7. Recognize the importance of having fun together. Allow for lots of silliness and having fun just for the sake of it. Keep in mind what children need from you most of all; that is love and acceptance.
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